Hi all
I was watching a sitcom the other day, in which the leading lady tells,"you can't get everything from a single person..."
I was pouring into it.
When I look into all the friendships I have, the statement mentioned above has always been underlying, only waiting for me to see the pattern. And I am not the same with everyone. Serious with serious people, funny with fun-loving ones, etc. And this is not something I cultivated purposefully.
For those frank talks its KD, gosipping its gotta be Abi, Girly talk its Nandy, professional talks its MK, Heart-to-heart talks its Aarthi, feel good talks its Dj, Soul-searching its Amma, Logical and fun talks its Rama, Fashion talks its Kaushi and Priya, 'old friends' talk its Ramya. assorted talks its Bhav, the big R talks its Choo.
Adaption is the buzz word here. But your principles will lie in the deepest of our values, which will not be affected by these adaptaions, but only can be enhanced. In fact your principles base is the rock on which all the adaptations are built.
I guess, everyone of us takes feedback and kinda refine ourselves in moving with each of our friends. of course , we do this only with friends and people we hold dear. And the process is mutual. So we are made of a million tiny bits of all of our acquaintances, as we are a part in a million others.
Oh..so...perhaps this is the reason, why marriages fail? Expecting everything from one person??? Of course, there are certain mandatory stuff that must be expected and fulfilled in a matrimony, but that line is not an easy one to draw, I mean what is to be expected and what not to.
Woof...I thought I could never write serious stuff!!
I was watching a sitcom the other day, in which the leading lady tells,"you can't get everything from a single person..."
I was pouring into it.
When I look into all the friendships I have, the statement mentioned above has always been underlying, only waiting for me to see the pattern. And I am not the same with everyone. Serious with serious people, funny with fun-loving ones, etc. And this is not something I cultivated purposefully.
For those frank talks its KD, gosipping its gotta be Abi, Girly talk its Nandy, professional talks its MK, Heart-to-heart talks its Aarthi, feel good talks its Dj, Soul-searching its Amma, Logical and fun talks its Rama, Fashion talks its Kaushi and Priya, 'old friends' talk its Ramya. assorted talks its Bhav, the big R talks its Choo.
Adaption is the buzz word here. But your principles will lie in the deepest of our values, which will not be affected by these adaptaions, but only can be enhanced. In fact your principles base is the rock on which all the adaptations are built.
I guess, everyone of us takes feedback and kinda refine ourselves in moving with each of our friends. of course , we do this only with friends and people we hold dear. And the process is mutual. So we are made of a million tiny bits of all of our acquaintances, as we are a part in a million others.
Oh..so...perhaps this is the reason, why marriages fail? Expecting everything from one person??? Of course, there are certain mandatory stuff that must be expected and fulfilled in a matrimony, but that line is not an easy one to draw, I mean what is to be expected and what not to.
Woof...I thought I could never write serious stuff!!
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i am back.........................................
and regards feedback after all the exams only one thing comes to my mind the communication channels, feedback, open system, re-energising :D
smiles
sathya
Well, throughly enjoyed this post. A break from my monotonous routine, gives me time to look back and analyse which trait of me I acquired from whom. You should write such stuff more often
Harish>>damn damn perfect he'd be:-)
SAthya>>aww sathya..please come out of all tht..we are engineers now:-)
What did i steal from ur mouth...explain!!am not a kavya viswanathan!!
i hv gone thru and am goin thru this stuff too... to the extent tht, i've started finding bits of some of my school friends in my coll friends!! :) how many ever come and go, there r some u wish u cud hv life long... their absence wil always be a vacuum in the heart :(
typical blog from you really...
took a while to materialize....
the serious stuff i mean...woof..
the last parah reminded me that you just finished your graduation and usually this is the time when such talks start in the house...
if thts the way it goes, u will lose ur bit in the mess. u may not be the same with all.. but u hav to be urself to someone. someone who knows all the dimensions of u... all others abt nothing but co-existence and socialising...
mademoissele... where art thou??
sathya
Nice post....my first time here!
but there will be some one who can u share almost every thing,
if u disagree to this,
then you guys should meet me and Sai, my best buddy around.
Good day,
Manoj K.Samy
Kalaharan>> que parlera parlera
wat does this mean?
anon>>I agree to the second paragraph of ur comment, absolutely...
kirukal>>welocme to my blog...keep coming..yah..i guess the pattern is not too uncommon i tihnk.
manoj>>i dont disagree
Expecting everything from a person is definitely one reason.
But it is more of mis-understandings and silly things which look big when something is not agreeable.
Being a jack of all trades works best in marriage i suppose.
suresh.
Expect nothing from no one......