Thursday, May 18, 2006

Thou shall adapt!!

Hi all

I was watching a sitcom the other day, in which the leading lady tells,"you can't get everything from a single person..."

I was pouring into it.

When I look into all the friendships I have, the statement mentioned above has always been underlying, only waiting for me to see the pattern. And I am not the same with everyone. Serious with serious people, funny with fun-loving ones, etc. And this is not something I cultivated purposefully.

For those frank talks its KD, gosipping its gotta be Abi, Girly talk its Nandy, professional talks its MK, Heart-to-heart talks its Aarthi, feel good talks its Dj, Soul-searching its Amma, Logical and fun talks its Rama, Fashion talks its Kaushi and Priya, 'old friends' talk its Ramya. assorted talks its Bhav, the big R talks its Choo.

Adaption is the buzz word here. But your principles will lie in the deepest of our values, which will not be affected by these adaptaions, but only can be enhanced. In fact your principles base is the rock on which all the adaptations are built.

I guess, everyone of us takes feedback and kinda refine ourselves in moving with each of our friends. of course , we do this only with friends and people we hold dear. And the process is mutual. So we are made of a million tiny bits of all of our acquaintances, as we are a part in a million others.

Oh..so...perhaps this is the reason, why marriages fail? Expecting everything from one person??? Of course, there are certain mandatory stuff that must be expected and fulfilled in a matrimony, but that line is not an easy one to draw, I mean what is to be expected and what not to.

Woof...I thought I could never write serious stuff!!

22 comments:

Ram said...

Adapting with ppl gives u a lot. From gud frendships to career it gives everything. But at the same time no one in this world can be gud to every other human being.

Harish said...

hmmm...gotta agre with you..if someone was as what you say...he must be damn PERFECT

Known Stranger said...

i just remember a poem i wrote long back. i need a frined to share my movie buss, i need a friend to do crazy childish play, i wnat another friend to talk philoispoy, i want another friend to do naughty stuff, i want another friend in the relation of sister to chit chat insecurities of family, i want anothe rfirned in the name of father to discuss about things i never know , i dont remember if i posted this poem iin blog... but this is how i wrote and ended - i never could find one friend where i needed everything but foudn plenty of friends and i am not the perfect to give everything you wan.. enjoy with me what i can be with you and let me enjoy with you what i can get from you.. lets live with out boundaries..

sathya said...

Hey divvs,

i am back.........................................

and regards feedback after all the exams only one thing comes to my mind the communication channels, feedback, open system, re-energising :D

smiles

sathya

KD said...

we are made of a million tiny bits of all of our acquaintances, as we are a part in a million others>> Well said Divs, this time around you stole the words right out of my mouth :-)

Well, throughly enjoyed this post. A break from my monotonous routine, gives me time to look back and analyse which trait of me I acquired from whom. You should write such stuff more often

Divya.B said...

ram>>my point exactly..well said..

Harish>>damn damn perfect he'd be:-)

Divya.B said...

vaishnava kumar>> Dat sounds a good look on the reality..would love to read tht poem...

SAthya>>aww sathya..please come out of all tht..we are engineers now:-)

Divya.B said...

KD>>Good tht u enjoyed this post!
What did i steal from ur mouth...explain!!am not a kavya viswanathan!!

dj said...

hey div,
i hv gone thru and am goin thru this stuff too... to the extent tht, i've started finding bits of some of my school friends in my coll friends!! :) how many ever come and go, there r some u wish u cud hv life long... their absence wil always be a vacuum in the heart :(

kalaharan said...

que parlera parlera>>>

typical blog from you really...
took a while to materialize....
the serious stuff i mean...woof..

b a l a j i said...

at last, u managed to write some serious stuff...

the last parah reminded me that you just finished your graduation and usually this is the time when such talks start in the house...

Anonymous said...

i agree with the 'u cant get all from one' stuff.. but abt the 'millions tiny bits from others in u' is a bit different from what i believe...

if thts the way it goes, u will lose ur bit in the mess. u may not be the same with all.. but u hav to be urself to someone. someone who knows all the dimensions of u... all others abt nothing but co-existence and socialising...

sathya said...

hi divvs,

mademoissele... where art thou??

sathya

Kirukal said...

Good to know that I am not the only person who adapts according to the person I am talking to ....this happens to me unconsciously but has made me realise that I can still retain my individuality inspite of my adaptation (friends have told me this!). True! Marriages fail when you expect everything from one single person!!!
Nice post....my first time here!

Bhavna Neel said...

dude.. damn .. i too send u a commend.. u didnt accept it.. or stupid thing didnt sent it to u .. i wrote so much .. me so sad

Anonymous said...

yea its tru that u cant get all these things from a single person,
but there will be some one who can u share almost every thing,
if u disagree to this,
then you guys should meet me and Sai, my best buddy around.

Good day,
Manoj K.Samy

Divya.B said...

dJ>>I always thought the two of us birds of same breed..it is only proven by ur comment...


Kalaharan>> que parlera parlera
wat does this mean?

Divya.B said...

balaji>>noo..'the such talks' are not happening yet..

anon>>I agree to the second paragraph of ur comment, absolutely...

Divya.B said...

sathya>>still here in cbe..n u??in blore i guess...

kirukal>>welocme to my blog...keep coming..yah..i guess the pattern is not too uncommon i tihnk.

Divya.B said...

bhav>>retyping...considered??:-)

manoj>>i dont disagree

Anonymous said...

Well Why marriages Fail is a big ocean.

Expecting everything from a person is definitely one reason.

But it is more of mis-understandings and silly things which look big when something is not agreeable.

Being a jack of all trades works best in marriage i suppose.

suresh.

Anonymous said...

Wow... !!
Expect nothing from no one......